It's Not Fine | The Truth About Authenticity

Welcome back to another episode of the Beauty and Burnt Post. Today we're discussing it's not fine. The truth about authenticity. How many times do people we run into them at the supermarket in the store and they're like, "How are you?" And you're like,

"I'm fine. It's fine. Everything's fine." But internally, you're like,

you know, trying not to screaming at the same time. So that's what we're discussing today. I want to lead with the scripture James 5:16. Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another so that you may be healed.

And I feel like this verse is so timely following Shawn's previous episode because I mean that was totally about identity and being authentic and she is one of the best examples of authenticity in my opinion. So, she also mentioned this verse, won't the Lord do it?

Um, everybody wants authenticity or at least they say they do. We want authentic friendships, authentic community, churches, and marriages. We hear people say, "I want to go deeper." But what does that actually mean?

Because if we're honest, most of us want the benefits of being known without the risk of being known. And I find that to be true a lot.

We want healing but not confession. Connection but not vulnerability. There's that word again. Community but not accountability. So today we're asking what does being real actually look like? And are we as authentic as we think we are?

Wanting to Be Known Without Being Seen

I love this. I love this because I really do believe so many people want the benefits. But it says here in our notes, they want to be known without the risk of being known. I would also translate that to they want to be known without the risk of being seen.

And I think, you know, when it's talking about James 5:6, we also need, yes, we need to speak out about our sins, but for us to be able to pray for one another, we need to bring the dark to the light. And so I think being able to and that doesn't necessarily mean a sin either.

That can be just something that we're going through like depression or anxiety or feeling alone um we need to mention that to other people so that they can be praying for us.

But we have a shame and a fear of being vulnerable and also being seen because I think for many reasons we think we we can get hurt. We we think just the possibility of losing someone, losing a friendship, not knowing where that information's going.

A lot of people shut down at the fear of being hurt.

Yeah.

But I mean, that is to love. To love is to put your heart out there and risk being hurt. But you can't live without that. Like there is no life without love.

Yeah. And I think we we we see it with Jesus. Love is deep. His love was so deep that his wounds were were I mean his wounds were so I don't even know how to explain it. They were so deep. They were so apparent.

And that's how I feel like we need to be with our love for other people is we we do need to go deep. you know, doesn't mean we have to share all of all of our scars because I think some of it is just for God.

Going Deep in Friendship

But I I do think if we want deeper friendships and deeper community, deeper marriages, we need to go deep with God first and foremost. So, hitting on friendships first and foremost, what does going deep in a friendship look like? I think people don't know what they think.

You know, you you get into a friendship and like for me, I feel like I am very you you get what you get. Like I kind of just put it all out there. Yeah.

Maybe to a flaw sometimes, but I don't want to change who I am based on who I'm with. And that has changed a lot more and become a lot more apparent in my walk today. But I think a lot of people it's very um conversations on the surface like how are your kids?

What's going on in school? What did you do? You know that kind of stuff. But the conversations I want now

Yeah.

are what is God doing for you? What are you struggling with? How can I help you? How can I be there for you? Walk through this with you.

Like what demons are you dealing with? You know, what are the hard I mean just all of it. I want it all. And I want that from you as well because you can't have it one-sided.

No.

Like that is not a friendship. That's not a relationship.

No. I think I don't know if we've already previously shared this, but something that I've learned is Jesus had his disciples. He had 12. There was a reason he only had 12.

But when he decided, you know, right before he was going to get crucified, he went on the mountain and he prayed and then he'd come back and see the ones that he called asleep. And he kept saying, "I need you up. I need you up." And there was it wasn't all 12 that was with him.

Yeah.

There was just a few.

Mhm.

So for me, I kind of interpret that as with our friendships, we can have a lot of friends. We can have people that we're nice with, but there's a few that we need in severe times.

Jesus needed those people. He needed that foundation in that very moment, which they were qualified for,

but he needed to seek that out. And so, you know, I think that that's something that I've learned recently is I don't need a bunch of friends.

I've usually been very particular with my my small group of people because not everyone is going to be qualified to go in a certain season with you. God will let you know who needs to be in that season with you. And it's the people that you can go spiritually deep with.

Not surface level.

Yeah.

It's the people that you can say, "I need you to pray for this and not judge me for it." Mhm.

And I think there are times to call out your friends in a viewpoint, not of judging, but as a concern.

But if you have friends that are going to judge your marriage, judge who you are, judge your heart, judge your relationship with God, I don't think that that's healthy.

Yeah. Well, I mean, there's having the conversations, too. Like, if you see someone is struggling with something, like you can point that out and have that conversation. And that's not judgment. Like you're not condemning

and that's a totally different thing. Like we have to be open to having the hard conversations with our friends. And that's true friendship.

Yeah.

But I find myself these days having conversations with people and you know if it's natural or if it's not natural. Like you'll talk about some things that people might find kind of crazy.

But when somebody's like, "I see you in that." Like, "I know what you're talking about." It just feels so good to have those kind of conversations. And you don't always get that.

Like you'll mention things and then they're like, "Oh, yeah, okay." And then the conversation just goes on.

Yeah.

I don't like very surface level friendships. And I actually try and stay away from them. If they're not spiritual, I really don't stick around.

And maybe that's a flaw on my end, but when I bring Jesus to the table in my life and in my friendships and they're not willing to if it's all drama-filled, if it's all about sinful conversations, um if it's about belittling your spouse, I'm not going to be there.

I'm not going to be there because it's not beneficial to me. It's not beneficial for the friendship. It's not beneficial for the kingdom.

Yeah. So for me with my close friends who I have, what I have seen is how they've responded to my no, how I don't see them judge me, how they uplift me in Christ, how they're there for me in hard times, how I'm able to share things and feel like it's protected.

Those kind of things I note as being close friends and I allow into that section. You something my therapist told me and I love him. He's fantastic. I've had him for a long time and I've learned so much along the way.

One thing that he shared with me, which is an analogy I would like to give you guys, is pretend your life is on the stage of a theater. You have first row, you have the people that are in the other seats, you have people in the lobby, and people that are outside.

Who is your front row? Who are you giving that VIP to? Who else? And then after that front row, who else is monitoring your life? Who's in it? Maybe not super deep, but who's watching you?

Who's out in the lobby who knows about you, but doesn't know what you're what's going on, what the show's about, what the play's about, you know, kind of that analogy, what's going on in your life, and who are the people that outside that are outside that don't have they don't know about you.

They don't know anything about, you know, they don't know about who you really are. They might not even know your relationship with Jesus. So, who do you allow in certain places?

because I have experienced trying to be authentic with people that are actually in the lobby and that has hurt me every time. They don't have they don't have my best interest. They don't really know me for me. They don't really hear me when I talk.

But I put them in a position to where I thought they did. And that was actually on my end, my fault, than theirs. because they can be a good person but we might not have the good car characteristics for each other.

Authenticity Isn't Oversharing

Yeah.

Or spiritual relationship to stay friends. So

that's tough.

Yeah.

But I think that leads me into a a whole different point of this. The authenticity is not oversharing. In social media, you see people that have the highlight reel and then you have the people that share every single bit of their life.

Yeah.

And I think the difference in authenticity is why are you sharing this information? So there's sharing it for views, they're sharing it for sympathy, but then they're sharing it for awareness and testimony.

Absolutely.

So which category are you falling in when you're sharing these things?

Absolutely. I think a lot of people believe that having authentic friends is to trauma dump. I've seen that a lot with my age group.

I've seen a lot with people just in general is they will share what they've gone through and almost a sense of wanting to feel validated even though we shouldn't validate it. They should really be seeking validation through Jesus.

But people will validate other people and that will be seen as friendship. I've gone through this. Oh, I have too. Let's be friends because we have this in common. And I think that can go deep to a certain extent, but that's not a fruitful deepness that we need.

Yeah. Authenticity, like you were saying, doesn't mean everyone gets access to every part of your life. Healthy vulnerability, sorry y'all, my stomach is growling. Still requires wisdom. Jesus didn't give everyone the same level of access. That's what we were talking about.

Taking It Off Social Media

There were the crowds, the disciples, the three. Not everyone was invited into the same spaces. Being authentic doesn't mean telling everyone everything. It means you're not pretending. There might be things in my life that I'm not going to share with everyone.

I'm not going to put it out there on social media, but in the right room, in the right setting, God might prompt me to share those things. And that is totally different from getting on social media and saying this person did this this this to me like hate them with me.

Y that's what a lot of people do.

Oh yeah.

And I it just it makes me cringe. Like I've been through hard things with people and my first thought is not to display that on social media. You're not I mean you're ruining somebody else's life and then also if you ever go back on that what's going to happen?

I completely understand. Trust me, I really understand that I I've had some really unfortunate falling outs where stuff was posted about me and I kind of left that as, you know, the doors not closed in our friendship. It's just not needing to continue right now.

It's not beneficial to either of us, you know, long story short.

But they made it known how they feel online instead of to me.

Yeah. And that confirmed where they're at versus where I'm at. And for me to know that that's not that's not how they view it. It's not going to be an it's it's a closed door and that's okay. But I I do definitely have an issue and I see it on TikTok. I see it on Instagram.

people Facebook people will comment and say all of this stuff instead of looking you in the face or calling you on the phone and being straight up with you and allowing people to have their feelings get hurt.

You're going to damage them if you post it online versus have a conversence or not. So I just think taking it off of social media, stop doing like stop that. It's It's not help. It's It's not helping at all.

Well, you know what the thing is, too? If somebody goes and posts all this stuff on talking about the I'm fine part, post all this stuff on social media and then you see them in public, hey, how's it going? And they're like, I'm fine. No, you're not.

Authenticity Is Having the Hard Conversations

You know, why are why are we afraid of really showing people who we are? Like God knows who you are.

Like he sees every part, every corner. And if there's anything that you're afraid to put out there, you might want to sit with him a while and kind of work that out.

I mean, I want people to see me here, see me at church, and then see me behind closed doors, and it all computes to the same person.

Yeah. I I see it as if someone wants to ask me something or they have beef, you know, they have issues with me or whatnot, if they confront me, I'm going to say the same thing that I would say to somebody else. And I'm not saying talk behind people's backs at all.

I'm not saying gossip because that is not okay either. But if you were to hurt me and I were to express it in a way that's not belittling to you, but just how I feel to somebody else, let's say my therapist,

I would explain my frustration somewhat similar to how I'm talking to them.

Cuz I'm not going to be someone that says one thing behind the screen, but then come on the screen and act like I'm

better than thou,

cuz I'm not. I'm I'm not I'm not trying to live a lifestyle with a plank in my eye. I want to be as authentic as I can be. And if I've done wrong, I will admit it,

you know, and I've I've struggled with that before because I'm not perfect. I've flawed in that area.

I've had pride, but I have seen how beneficial my relationships have been when I've just been like straight up and said, "Hey, this this might hurt you or I want to be honest about something.

This is how I'm feeling." And if they handle it with care, that shows that they're a good friend, I think.

Well, authenticity is having those hard conversations.

Yeah.

I know it sucks sometimes, but we cannot shy away from that.

No, because then you run the risk of resentment,

secrets, anger

if you're not being transparent. Yeah.

I mean, the same thing with Jesus. If we hold it from him, if we hold our friendship, my relationship with Jesus, I'm gonna be frustrated with him. Why aren't you doing this? Well, because you're not sharing.

Yeah.

You know what I mean? There's now expectations on the line. And that and friendship can be very

marriage to very difficult. You're running on thin ice when you have expectations that you're not communicating about.

Yeah.

And to be authentic is to be transparent and be communicative. if you if you have a problem with something or if it's like, "Hey, I feel like I'm put putting in more than you are." Like, that needs to be talked about.

But I think a lot of everyone's on their screen now talking about stuff that now people don't want to people hide behind their screen and now gossip about it or post about it instead of going to that person face to face. Everything has to be posted.

Yeah.

A Generation Pulling Away From Real Communication

So, our next episode will be on communication in marriage. So, tune in for that next. Oh my goodness.

Communication is just important all the way around. And as we have discussed before, your generation, a lot of the younger generations are really pulling away from that communication. I feel like because there is so much social media influence, you're not being forced to do that.

No. I think what's being pushed right now is unhealthy communication in my generation. You just say whatever you want. You go to an event, you you just are super disrespect. It's it's very disrespectful how we're approaching being transparent.

Yeah. There's a difference between that huge difference and then coming to somebody and saying, "Hey, I feel like when you did this, like it really hurt me."

You know, like I love you, but I want you to know how I'm feeling. That is a big difference.

Yeah. I think another thing too is if someone's being authentic and or vulnerable with you and you're, you know, you don't really hear it and you continue doing what's hurting them,

that is not I don't know this is a

you can't change if you don't know.

Yeah. It's not going to benefit the friendship.

Yeah. Because you cannot someone cannot be authentic in a friendship if you are not willing to also put in your part.

Visibility vs. Vulnerability

It takes two to tango. I don't know that part. So visibility and vulnerability are not the same thing. For years social media rewarded perfection. the perfect family, the perfect vacation, the perfect house, the perfect life. Then people got tired of perfect.

Now we say we want authenticity. But do we really know what that means? If people only know the polished version of us, we stay in control. But the moment someone sees our fears, struggles, doubts, and imperfections, we risk being misunderstood.

The irony is that the thing we fear most is often the thing we need. Yep. Because depth begins when performance ends. Yeah.

Yep. My favorite podcast, shows, whatever else are people that just put it all out there that talk about the hard stuff, that talk about the weird stuff. Like, it makes me feel seen and it makes me feel normal because I'm not looking at this perfect polished life.

No, I I'm so tired of like the the maximalist influencing having to have this perfect oneup each other life.

Oh yeah,

it makes me want to throw my phone in a lake.

It really does.

And I feel like we hit on these type topics a lot. Like they all come up, but they are just so prevalent. Like we talk about comparison a lot. We talk about the influencing a lot. But like that is all we are experiencing right now. like it is just shoved in our faces 24/7.

Made to Be Different, Not Like Everyone Else

And we are made to be different. We are made to be set apart, faith-based, but also in general, God made every one of us unique.

So trying to be like everybody else, I don't feel like that's going to gratify you. And being authentic at the end of the day, I don't think that that's going to, you know, everyone says that they want to be different.

Yeah.

But are you really? What does that look like? Being different, I think, is being authentic,

your true self.

Yeah. Because

people,

that's not this world.

Learning to Sit With Yourself

People don't want to be authentic with themselves. It's more than just not wanting to be authentic in relationships or friends. It's with themselves. Mhm.

If people got I really think if people got off their phone and spent time talking to themselves sounds crazy but or like looking in the mirror or just taking some time to be away from the noise I think people would be very uncomfortable because they people don't know how to sit with themselves.

I really believe that.

Have you ever really looked at yourself in the mirror? Like I know we get ready in the mornings, but we're not really looking at ourselves. Like when you stand there and like legit look at yourself,

it's not easy.

Nope. I usually when I cry and I'm alone, I go, it sounds crazy. I go look in the mirror

because I like to

sit with myself,

see my expression, not post about it.

Yeah. right away. Not post me crying. Oh, this happened to me. I sit with myself. I sit with God.

I'm not judging. I'm not judging. I

Well, I'm saying all I've been there. I've been the one to wo is me post. I'm not saying that any of this out of a judgment. I've been exactly there.

Well, I have a hard time watching the crow post, but bother me.

People don't take enough time to get off their phone and sit with themselves and be authentic. There are things hidden that you are not willing to admit in your life. you're putting first. Like, and I'm saying all of this because I've been there.

But when I sit with myself, I'm uncomfortable. I'm stressed out. Well, why am I stressed out? Let me think about it. What am I doing that's doing that? If I'm sad, why am I sad? People just are like, "Okay, uh, I feel this way. Let me just make it better by going on TikTok.

I've been there." Well, but I'm just wondering when you're going on camera to cry for a post, are you crying with other people in your community in those relationships? Like, are you having the same emotion in those relationships that you're having on a camera?

Discerning What's Real Online

You might. I'm not saying that everyone is doing that and not. I think there are people that cry out of desperation for seeing how the world is.

I mean, I've seen the Christian aspect of it of people crying for salvation for others, but I've also seen people crying because they don't have what someone else has and they're oneupping and they're judging or they're crying because of drama and they have to post about it.

I've seen the ups and downs with it. So, I'm not going to say that people going on social media and crying is ultimately wrong.

Yeah.

But I will say it's misused. Well, I think because of what we have been subjected to, it's really hard to distinguish, you know, it's like the the boy who cried wolf.

Yes.

Like, how do you know what's real and what's not real? Like, we've come to that point where you can't decide who really needs help. Like, do I need to reach out to this person and give them a word so they're not, you know, going and trying to harm themselves?

Are they just doing this for for views or is this a real thing? Mhm.

And that's a horrible place to be. Like, how do you help someone when that's what you're dealing with?

Yes. I I've experienced it in my DMs. People reach out to me saying, "I'm I'm in poverty. I need help with rent." And they're crying, but then I see them two seconds later and their account is forbidded because it was a fake account.

It's very bull.

There's a lot of wolves in sheep's clothing.

Yeah. Well, I mean, it's locally these what's happening pages I'm going go down a whole rabbit hole with that

because people post stuff all the time,

you know, that they need help.

It's great. You know, I want to help people, but you can't distinguish. You know, sometimes I know if God prompts you, you just got to give and what they do with it. You cannot be in control of that. You've got to let it go. But I can't know.

I can't know if you're Are your children really starving? Yes, I want to help you. I can't tell because social media has made everything so crazy.

Mhm.

I don't know.

And the more you're in social media, the less you are going to be able to hear God's voice.

So, if you do come across someone that you think needs help, get off your phone and pray about it to get discernment. You cannot I've learned it myself. You cannot get discernment by scrolling on TikTok the whole day.

You can't You can listen to something be like, "Oh, that's good. I think that's from God." Well, also get into your word. Also, also listen to worship.

Also pray because just because you hear something doesn't mean it's meant for you and doesn't mean that you can just discern it because you have the spirit in you. You need to also have that relationship with God, not just Tik Tok or not just YouTube.

I've been there and you can't.

At least from my experience, you know, I can hear something and think that's a great word and someone's being authentic with me about their testimony and I'm like, "Yeah, I get that, but that's also not feeding my relationship with God, too." I mean, it's testimony.

It's beautiful, but also, how can I continue to grow my testimony?

Yeah.

Getting in the Word

So, being authentic also means being raw with yourself, not just with other people, not just with God, with yourself. peel off the onion layers. Like Shrek says, onions have layers.

My rawness with myself is that I do not get in the word enough as much as I want to. And it's one of the things that I really want to focus on now

is that quiet time. And I know I can say it till I'm blue in the face, but doing is a totally different story. But I just think that is so impactful. And the common denominator in a lot of our podcast are the word. The word. The word. Go to the word. Compare this to the word.

Yeah, that's your answer. I mean, it's the word. So,

I struggle with reading ever. Like, I'm not an everyday reader. I'm not.

That's no excuse.

That's no excuse.

You can listen to it in the car now.

Yes. But I realize when I do get in the word myself versus watching someone share a verse or watching a sermon on a word, but me actually getting into it, you can have the Holy Spirit translate it in your life.

Yeah.

And then a couple years later, you can read it the same way and it impacts you differently.

He shows you what you need to see in the moment.

So I do think getting in your word is necessary for your authenticity to grow.

Yeah. 100%.

Yeah.

Known and Healed

The connection between being known and being healed goes back to James 5:16. Everyone wants the last part so that you may be healed. But healing is connected to honesty. Not because people save us, but because God often uses people in the healing process.

Yes.

Maybe that's why so many people feel lonely. We have become visible without being known.

Yep.

That's all it is. I mean, you you feel like you know these people that you're seeing, you know nothing.

They only show you what you they want you to see.

Yeah.

And and one thing lately too, like going into um deepness with community and what I've experienced with our church is just when you're in those dark moments, when you've gone through stuff, you have those people there to lift you back up if you're sick, if you've had surgery, to to bring you food and to love on you.

And that's what everyone needs.

Yeah.

We We don't want to be alone.

I've done a lot of healing in my life and it is very you can but it's very hard to heal alone. And you just for me and my experience I just needed a few people that I was honest with to be able to work on my healing process. Yeah.

Healing Doesn't Happen Alone

And you need to be honest. I part a lot of my healing journey in my life was that I need to be honest with God. And that involved me being honest with myself of why I wanted stuff,

why I wanted to put it in before him, why I chose to fall back into sin, why I chose to hang out with those people. I had to be real with myself as to why I was doing that. And I couldn't have been seen and known and revealed the honest Courtney. Yeah.

Without being real with God, showing myself. I think it's really interesting how when Adam and E Eve ate the apple and God said, "Where are you?" They were hiding. They were in shame because they knew that they were doing something that they weren't wanting to be honest about.

And so I put that as to my life as I've had a lot of shame where I didn't want to reveal a wound or I didn't want to tell someone what I've gone through because one, they probably weren't expecting it and two, I would be scared of how they would react.

But it wasn't necessarily about how much I say. It was the freedom of saying it and knowing it's not in the dark anymore. And I'm not saying you got to shout that from the mountains where everyone's going to hear it,

but there are few people that you can keep value with what you've gone through.

So,

yeah. You know,

yeah.

And and something too is um sometimes we're just stubborn and we don't want to ask for help

and and I've been there too.

And like I had I had a friend recently, not calling this person out, but they went through something and I'm like, I'm contacting the husband because I know you're going to say no if I do if I offer this to you and you're getting it whether you like it or not because I love you and we all need that whether we want to admit it to ourselves or not.

As women, we go through this motions of I can do it all. I do it all. I take care of the kids. I cook. I clean. I do all the things. But it's exhausting. And we have to be willing to admit that to ourselves.

Yeah.

I'm so tired.

Oh my god.

We've been talking about that a lot lately. Just um the energy is

Yeah. One thing I will say that I'm growing with Josh and I's relationship. I feel and I he it's not accurate. I feel like I got to do everything

and I don't do everything, but I feel like I have to. And so, you know, he'll just reach his hand out and say, "If you need help, just ask me." That's the hardest part for me is being like, "I would like you to do this cuz I know I could do it."

But we want them to know.

Yes.

We want them to just know and do it. And we don't want to ask.

The thing is that how you're not God. How can they know? And so I've had to really put that pride down of feeling like I need to be in control of everything and I can't just ask for help.

Yeah.

And I've had to work on that. And I've seen when I'm so stressed out and I'm just like, "Hey, can you do this?" He'll do it. You know, if you ask a friend, if I asked you for help, she will do it

because you lock yourself. I was going to say I locked myself out of the house for the second time and she came and picked me up and you know I was kitty carp pulled to her house and I got a key but I needed help to get the key anyways.

So it's just asking for help when you need it can really help. I feel like that's a big word for this but it will help you be vulnerable, be authentic and be raw with other people and yourself. It is needed to heal. I I have done coaching.

I've been in coaching lessons for a year. I had one a great fantastic relationship with a woman for trauma. And the LA we had a trip at the very end of it. You know, we went on a one-on-one vacation somewhere where we could just really focus on the the growth I've gone through.

But the last thing she told me is, "Are you ready to let go of this exact?" And it was a it was an issue I was going through at that time. But she's are you really ready to let go of this and face it?

And you know I had to be raw with myself and think was I ready to let go of that or not? And once I finally did, God God was able to speak through that part of my life.

But I had through that whole thing if I said no I wasn't ready to in that whole year that I was working on stuff with her. If I just was not willing to be authentic with her and man, it was uncomfortable. I felt things I've never felt. I had trauma come out.

It it I had things I remembered that I didn't even recognize that I went through. They just popped back up.

that had to go out of my life to continue growing, to continue the authenticity, to continue who Courtney is becoming, who Courtney was and who Courtney is supposed to be right now. Those things had to go.

But for those to go, I had to one, acknowledge that they were there, two, see if they were still something I was struggling with or something I didn't forgive yet, and three, kill it.

So, you need to be aware of how transparent you are in your relationships and with yourself because there might be things in your relationship that you're holding on to, the rocks in the backpack that you're not really ready to let go that you're resenting.

And until you're ready to be authentic and reveal the rock that's in your backpack and say, "God, I need help with this. I don't know how to be transparent about this. I want this gone. That's where there's going to be a difference between being known and being healed.

Let go and drop them walls down.

Yep. Let go. Let God. Let go and let God. So maybe authenticity isn't telling everyone everything. Maybe authenticity is having the courage to stop pretending, to stop saying, "I'm fine," when you're really not. Yep.

Closing Encouragement

To let trusted people into the places where you're struggling to move beyond being seen and into being known. Known everybody says they want to go deeper. But depth begins the moment we stop performing and start telling the truth.

Being real isn't giving everyone access to your life. It's making sure the person people see is the same person you are when nobody is watching. So, let's get real with ourselves this week, shall we?

Go look in the mirror.

Yes.

Take time to look at yourself in the mirror.

Yeah. It's hard, but you can do it.

Yep.

Let God in those places he needs to pull things out of you.

And continue to pray about it. Yeah. Because I think, you know, after listening to this, if if you're feeling like you want to be authentic in certain areas of your life, pray for God to reveal what you need to let go of or what you need to share

and who is a safe space for you as well.

Yes.

Yeah. So, we'll see you next time on the Beauty and Burn to Bye, guys.

Closing Prayer

Heavenly Father, we thank you for this podcast. We thank you for the topic of authenticity. We thank you for who we know it best from, Jesus.

Lord, I pray that we are able to be transparent with one another, especially ourselves, with who we are made to be, who we are called to be, and just continuing to follow the path that we're supposed to be led on through Jesus.

Lord, I pray for the women that listen to this that they're able they're able to be authentic and raw with themselves of what they are holding on to or what they need to be vocalizing or let go of. Lord, allow them to have this revelation in their heart and throughout their week.

We thank you for everyone that's listening in and we thank you for just this podcast and that you're able to flow through it. In Jesus name we pray. Amen.

Amen.

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